As one of the founders for The Agency, and being in executive matchmaking for two companies prior with four years in the business, I have a few things to say to you singles out there who are still looking for the “perfect” mate. Here’s the first thing: it doesn’t exist.
That’s right, I said it. Go ahead and hate me. But the fact of the matter is, no matchmaker, matchmaking agency, or dating service will ever be able to find you that perfect man or woman no matter how much money you drop on one of their costly memberships. The second thing is the amusement I find when people come to me because they have been dating their way for decades without results, and then hire me just so they can keep themselves in the same dating rut, attracted to the same kind of person who has only disappointed them year in and year out over the course of their dating lifetime.
What I say to that is open your minds, people. Stop looking for the “good on paper” person and take a chance by meeting the person the professional you just hired feels would be good for you. Clearly you respected your matchmaker’s position enough to trust that she knows what she is doing, right? I promise you, Cupid’s honor, that if you finally give the semi-attractive, intellectual nice guy a chance over the aloof GQ-model with the ambivalent attitude you know you still find magnetically appealing for some emotionally unhealthy reason, you WILL find your Prince Charming. But the latter look so much better on paper…and so continues the cycle. See my point?
As women especially, we know that attraction takes time, but can develop, and you can in fact learn to love someone. If there are enough positive qualities about the person, and just a hint of physical appeal, what begins as a slight interest can snowball into a full-blown friendship followed by a deep and meaningful love that lasts.
That is those of us at The Agency shake our heads and sigh when we get a frustrated client who declines every person we send them because (as an example) the candidate didn’t look enough like their college boyfriend who they were so in love with and “blah, blah, blah…” And what my imaginary acerbic response to that always is, is they are an ex for a reason, and you are still single. Care to do it our way this time?
Just something to consider.