We received an email this week that warmed our hearts, because it was one of those moments when you realize that you really are making a difference in people’s lives.
We brought on a client who, for the past decade or so after his divorce, was in the terrible habit of choosing the wrong women for himself. As he admitted from the first consultation, his “picker was off”. In his late 50s, the biggest issue he was placing in front of himself was that he was dating women far too young for him, which left him empty and let down after the initial high of the physical chemistry wore off. We coached him through several introductions with women more age appropriate and tried getting him into the mindset of looking long-term, and breaking the dating routine that were emotionally unfulfilling. His mind was keeping him from being more open because he was being held back by a “type” in his head, and his own stereotype that women over the age of 40 were less energetic, less adventurous and jaded.
Finally, after five unsuccessful matches in three months (some of whom fit his imagined “type”, which we matched him to, to prove a point), he met a gorgeous, successful, vibrant woman we are proud to have represent the caliber of 45+ female clients we work with. Only nine years his junior, they met and both fell head over heels for each other.
Two months have gone by and they are still enjoying every second together. He has even met her three children and wrote that he is excited to be a part of that family unit. He himself has never had children of his own and also had never imagined he would date someone with a child – let alone several of them!
Then the email came, thanking us for making him see exactly what we had been telling him from the beginning of his journey with us: he said his mental “type” could not have been more off base, as his new girlfriend is more energetic, beautiful, radiant and emotionally connected than any 30-something he had dated in the past. He praised us for leading him down a path that has left him feeling fulfilled emotionally, physically, intellectually and spiritually – which he never would have found on his own had he done it “his way”.
These are the moments we realize we make a difference, and fall in love more and more with what we do.